Then there's another friend who went to her year college reunion sans husband and pregnant, and delighted in all the attention she received—it felt like far more than she had received whens she was in school. But why? When you're pregnant, your body is changing in this really obvious and dramatic way. Even the most benign attention presupposes a kind of corporeal scrutiny that it's not usually acceptable to bestow on any woman, let alone a stranger. Perhaps the socially kosher examination of a pregnant woman's body makes men more likely to tune in to their attraction.
A different friend theorizes that some heterosexual men, already prone to appreciate feminine curves, can't help but notice bigger boobs, a rounder belly, a little extra junk in the trunk. Another and my husband, apparently thinks that a pregnant woman's obvious fertility triggers a lizard-brained attraction to her the she-could-have-my-babies theory.
Or maybe there's a benevolent or possibly sexist wish to take care of a pregnant woman, or maybe some guys just have a pregnancy fetish. Could a swell of prenatal estrogen or pheromones be biologically magnetic? There have been studies suggesting that men are more attracted to women when they're ovulating; is pregnancy-timed attraction a logical extension?
Ultimately, the reasons are probably varied and complex. As bemused as I am by the flirtation surge, I'm choosing to look at it as part of the transition from being a childfree person to a parent. When I first got pregnant, I assumed that people would notice my growing bump, but I didn't expect this kind of male attention.
And maybe that's the lesson I need to take from all of this: Even if I try to predict how motherhood will change the way people see me, I'll probably be surprised by the reality. Until this pregnancy, I could walk through the world as a relatively untethered individual, but I'll soon be viewed as someone's mom, with all the baggage and connotations that that identity brings.
For better or worse, in ways foreseeable and not, everything will be different—and while I'm 99 percent sure that my screeching baby is going to serve as a man-repelling force field, I wouldn't bet money on it. Stranger things have happened. Shop Elle. United States. Type keyword s to search. It was all just damn beautiful. I was really put off the idea of sex. I absolutely loved my wife, and found her very attractive throughout, but it was a huge, huge mental barrier Just more round. Just as beautiful as it was 9 months before.
Sex, however, stopped the day I felt my son kick me through her belly. Then she vomited more. All she could eat was lime popsicles. It took medical attention and all the patience on the universe so she and my first girl would not die I was basically grateful for her to be alive.
She was not sexy at all, and I had horrific memories for months after delivery. Every time she would puke I was there holding her. I find it so amazing every day when I look at her belly with our child in it. It was like trying to have sex with a human mantis hybrid, wast sure if I was going to have a good time or lose my head. Death is a turn off for me. Like having every status-symbol man has ever craved and a pet wolf thrown in for free.
So utterly badass. Such is life. For the record, I dug through nearly 1, comments and by and large the majority were rave reviews of pregnancy and professed an abundance of love -- some of which were so enthusiastic about bodies in bloom they bordered on adult content not suitable for work! I included many of the heartwarming comments here, but also sought out a handful of differing opinions for the sake of variety.
My own husband stands with the few who found pregnancy to be sexually unattractive. In humans, scientists suspect that babies learn sexual preferences and perhaps even fetishes predominantly from their mothers. And if mom is pregnant, pregnancy is attractive. Ghirlanda recently conducted a study on this very subject. Therein, she notes that there are ample examples of sexual imprinting in animals. Goats who were raised by sheep mothers tend to only be sexually responsive to sheep.
A giant panda once famously refused to mate with another panda, but propositioned a zookeeper. Sexual imprinting in humans is more controversial, because the human brain is still not well-understood. For this new study, Ghirlanda and colleagues recruited 2, people from pregnancy and lactation fetish online groups. Participants were asked about their sexual preferences most reported being into both pregnancy and lactation , as well as the age and sex of each of their siblings.
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